I have come across a lot of Parents who have their kid who is in their teens. They frequently telling me that they no longer have an idea as to how to connect with their children. Change is but normal when your kids go into their teenage, all the things surrounding them is going to change. To assist you get along and help your teen years old develop in a positive direction, you’ll need to develop a sense of empathy. It is better to learn to change oneself to change the teenaged children or make them face the changes and challenges in a natural way. This ‘learning’ is the better way of ‘parenting’ the teens.
These days, parents are looking for more relaxed and effective ways to stop the disrespectful behavior of their teens. Sometimes, the generation gap widens the understanding of the word, ‘respectful behavior’. Given all the expectations of normal parents, let’s check on how to get your teenage kids on track and stop the rude talk and behavior.
This article will outline that simple process. This makes a terrifying topic as straightforward as possible. Your child needs to be healthy and lead a happy life. You need to be their backbone in helping them be happy and stay in tack. Here are five wonderful suggestions assimilated from a group of Moms. They are people who’ve struggled and fought this issue.
In most of the cases, it is clear that parents often impose rigid disciplinary rules to their kids. This is nothing but a fear of losing control of their children. It is not wrong to wish that our kids should be tamed well. Yet if we teach our kids to do this by themselves in an independent manner, they develop sound decision-making skills. That parent, who takes a carefree attitude to avoid misunderstandings with their kids makes them an improper understanding of things around. This leaves their youngsters to fend for themselves without structure or clarity on what is expected of them.
Doing too much of any of these also proves wrong for our teens’ growth. We need to find the right balance to give teens the support they need while allowing them to have the freedom to develop their individual identities. Those parents who set proper principles for their children while letting them know that they love them for who they are will foster growth. This brings a mutual respect and finds the teen years an exciting and fulfilling time.
2Give them some time. Don’t push them to be too independent
Since adolescence or teenage falls between kids’ period to an adult stage, they have to be given that time and place for transition without friction. This is a period where every teen has his/her own timetable for this new change. The actual independence, we expect from our teens includes close relationships with others. This never needs to include rebelliousness. It is never too healthy for your child to feel that you’re pushing him into the independence of no boundary. This only pushes your teens to slowly get away from you. They become overly dependent on the peer group. This might be harmful to kids at times. If they aren’t ready to go for a vacation, it might mean they are still not ready for it. It is okay to give them the right kind of time and space to deal with their emotions and let them enjoy the feel of being independent.
3Try to stay connected with your teens
The essence and primary characteristic of your teen years are their need to separate from their parents. They love to become more independent. We generally feel upset that our child’s receptivity to our guidance starts to take the last position. All that matters to them would be the opinions and influence of their peer group. But we should try and understand that teens need the love, attachment and attention. The emotional support provided by us is more than anything from anyone or any time of their life.
This is a crucial part of their life and our life. They may seem to be pulling away from us, but we must continue to try to to talk. We should make them to actively listen, stay close, to focus on family time. For that, we should talk what we should talk only. Sermons have never yielded results. They should be taught to maintain habits like a hug or a goodnight kiss and to find ways to spend time together. This could also include activities like our household chores. Most teens develop interests of helping their parents at this age if guided properly.
4Believe your Teens
It is natural that the teens realize that they are bloominginto an adult now at this stage. At this stage, it is possible that your kids start having and developing his own opinions and interests. This practically which may be different from yours. At this juncture, you have all rights to express your feelings but don’t lecture or argue. It is important to let him know that you respect his opinion. It is all the more important to know where and whom your teens are hanging around with at the same time it is also important to respect his privacy. This builds an ultimate understanding between you and you kid.
5Make sure your kid finds a friend in you
Generally, it is a trend of our teenage kids to expect that their parents understand, appreciate and love them by the end of the day. They generally wish their relationship with their parents is more of a friendship type. We, as parents have to play the game smartly in this aspect.We need to be their friend at the same time not creep too much into their independence too. Be careful to move into your kids close space in an accepting way that doesn’t take advantage of your role as parents. Tell your child what to do, he’s more likely to open up and share with you.
Further many parents fear to move close with their kids and become as close as their friend. They think it might become hazardous for the respect they have on them. This is not completely true. We should know where to draw the line. Learn to offer your teen respect, some consideration, and authenticity. That’s what you’ll receive in return.
Also, remember as close as you want to be to your teen, sometimes you will have to take the guts and learn to say NO. If you’re doing it often, that’s a red flag that something is wrong. This would give us the sign that our teens are out of track. But sometimes your teen will be looking to you to set limits they can’t set for themselves. At times, you’ll need to stick by your principles and say no, whether that’s to an unsupervised party or a late night out. After all, these you will find your teen will be able to use your guidance to come up with a win-win solution that answers your concerns. What more would we want?
This is definitely challenging period for the adolescence parents as well as their teenage kids. There are many confusions,lots of emotional ups and downs.Yet it’s also an exciting time. Our kids grow into a unique individual. Each youngster in making is taking physical, intellectual and moral shape. It is important parents relish this time and give their best to their teens. What we sow,is what we reap!